If you are struggling with a loved ones addiction or recovery, read on…
You need support for you, for you to heal and for you to move forward in your life.
Whatever that looks like… independent of their recovery.
You cannot put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.
I’m here to tell you that there is a better way and that there is so much to gain by doing your own work.
Please know that everything you’re doing and feeling is completely NORMAL.
This is a really confusing situation.
No, it’s not just you.
And I know… friends and family just don’t ‘get it’.
If you do nothing, nothing will change.
If you do something, something will change.
If you do something good, something good will happen.
What people are saying…
“Amanda helped me rediscover who I am, what made me happy and how to thrive despite the turbulence caused by my spouse’s addiction.”
Lindsey L.F
“I took more actionable steps forwards in this three month program than I did in regular therapy over the last several years. The accountability and support was it for me. I am an introvert so wasn’t sure how I’d go, and I loved the small group setting. I’m so glad I did this for myself! It’s only now that I realise how stuck I was and there’s no going back to how I ‘was’ before. Cannot recommend this program more highly! Everyone in this life situation of having a partner with addiction should do this!”
Linda, United States
“The program gave me so many amazing tools and strategies to use to help me find happiness in my life no matter what may be going on in it. I am so grateful.”
Erin S.
“I’m so proud of myself for how far I’ve come. I’m more at peace than I’ve been in a long time and I feel like I’m finding myself again. And I’m so grateful to Amanda for the role she played in helping me get to this point!”
Luna B, United States
“I was nervous, but I felt like I could finally breathe again after our first session. There was hope! I was NOT alone in my struggle! These were real women in the the trenches with me.”
Mindy B, United States
“I remember after the very first session feeling relieved, lighter and full of hope - for myself. Amanda has such a beautiful way of looking at things. The support from the other women was amazing and so often they would share things and would literally take the words right out of my mouth. This kick started my life again and I will be forever thankful to Amanda and those beautiful Ladies who walked alongside me”
Jess, United States
Get off the chaos and
crisis rollercoaster
Create consistency and predictability for yourself and your family.
Stop doing things that don’t work.
Start doing things that are effective and backed by science, research, lived experience and success.
Get a bunch of practical tools and strategies along the way to make life better for you, your family and your loved one.
Step out of resentment and constant worrying.
This program is for you if…
✔️ Are sick and tired of trying things that don’t work and you don’t know what to do anymore but can’t go on like “this”.
✔️ You want to evaluate your own behaviors that are not serving you, and work through how to change to healthier beahviors.
✔️ You want to learn tools and strategies that actually work, which you can implement immediately so that you and your family can live a better and full life that is not only manageable, but enjoyable.
✔️ Want support with your own coping mechanisms in your loved one’s problematic behavior so that you stay well.
✔️ Want support to get you in the best place possible for you so that you can make empowered choices for your life.
✔️ Want to be in a better and healthier frame of mind to get better outcomes for your loved one in their recovery.
✔️ Want community in like minded Women who understand and are understanding and encouraging.
You might be asking yourself is coaching for me…?
✔️ This coaching program is right for you if you are ready to stop waiting for your partner (or ex partner) to change, and transform your OWN life NOW. It’s thinking where could you be in 3 months, 6 months, 1 years time if you take back control of your own well being?
✔️ This coaching program is right for you if you are ready to get out of being STUCK and living in your past story and want to work through what’s holding you back.
✔️ This coaching program is right for you if you want to get real about holding up to a mirror to what you are doing and holding a space of curiosity with yourself as to the changes you can make… that can make a huge impact.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if want to make decisions and choices with confidence and to back yourself without doubt.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if want a guided process to stop feeling like your whole world is falling apart and get your confidence back.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if you want practical tools to help you navigate the daily chaos and crisis and get off the drama roller coaster.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if you want to set boundaries that work and feel good about them.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if you want to identify and challenge any blocks so you can reclaim your self-worth after so long abandoning yourself and your wellbeing.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if you are ready take responsibility and accountability for ways that aren’t serving you and actively change those for the better, which will be better for al those around you.
✔️ This coaching program is for you if you are motivated to change and want better for yourself because you know you deserve it, and you know you can't do it alone.
However, changing the way you think about yourself, changing your patterns and behavior and change in general is hard work and this program is not for everyone. It’s going to take dedication and commitment from your side.
No one can do this for you - and I know that can be scary. And you are worth it.
I will absolutely do it alongside you and support you along the way. And the tools and strategies you learn inside this coaching program will serve you for life. So surely that’s worth it!
Change starts with YOU
Stop making YOUR happiness conditional on your partner being sober or in recovery.
Still on the fence?
Only you can take this step and I know it's not easy.
Like me, and most of the Women that have joined this program, you’ve probably already tried to find support for yourself and found it lacking, it it didn’t feel aligned. Therapists telling you to ‘let go’, and support groups telling you detach… sometimes it doesn’t quite mesh. And this is so different to all of ‘that’.
Change is hard right? But so is staying the same. I invite you to ‘choose your hard’, choose the hard that gets you living the better life, independent of what your loved one is doing. You can lead the way. Regardless of your relationship status, regardless of their path.
Ask yourself, how long can you keep going the way you are going? Where does this “doing more of the same” get you?
Ask yourself, how long will you keep trying the same things over and over again that don’t get you anywhere, but yet you keep hoping for change?
What has inaction cost you so far? Your time, is it months, years or decades? Your mental and physical health? Being the parent you wanted to be but can’t? Your career options or path? Your financial security?
What excuses have you given yourself so far as to ‘why’ you wouldn’t do this for yourself? And then flip the narrative - if your loved one offered you the same excuses for why they aren’t doing their work, what would you say to them? (Brutal… I know!) And also… I’ve been there too.
Discomfort? I get it! With so much focus on getting support for your loved one, it can feel so uncomfortable to realise that, you need support for yourself and you deserve it.
If you could have done it alone, you would have done it by now right?
And there is this crazy thought, that in so many areas of life we reach out for support, guidance, accountability… yet when it comes to navigating something we have never done before… we think we can do it alone, in private.
And here is the absolute kicker, getting support for you will actually help your loved one too and your other family members. When you are better, you can be better for others and everyone wins in that scenario. You are truly leading the way.
Ok Amanda, I am ready. Sign me up to the Pathway to Wellness please!
“Working with Amanda has really changed my life. When I found her I was confused, hopeless and depressed - really loving my partner but not knowing how to get through it. Through our work, I feel empowered, strong and capable - no matter what comes. Having strong boundaries and clear communication ironically created a better relationship with my partner as well. If you have a chance to work with her, I highly recommend. It is game changing.”
Lauren S.
Change starts with YOU
And if you aren’t sure if this is for you - book in a friendly chat.
If you don’t feel like this is a ‘heck yes’, but are curious to learn more, let’s chat and I promise to let you know if this program is a good fit for you. I’ll be able to tell in our 30 minute chat if this is for you or not. The decision to join is completely yours!