I know that you’re exhausted, confused and there is a low hum of anxiety most days. You think or maybe you know your loved one has a problem with a substance of behaviour and you’ve tried yelling, begging, silent treatment, negotiating and pleading for change, and maybe you’ve gone through the pockets, the phone and the laptop and possibly the car too so you can confront them with the ‘evidence’ of this problem they say they don’t have, but you only feel more and more confused, upset and worried about the future as time goes on.
There’s so much conflicting information and ‘advice’ out there, it's confusing and friends and family mean well but don't understand.
If you’re here, there are a few things I already know about you.
Pathway to Wellness Program
Expressions of Interest
Find out more about how the 3 month program works, what you can expect to gain and be the first to know when enrolment opens for the next intake - Those within the program receive a very high level of support from me, so each intake is limited. And being on the waitlist means you get the first chance to secure a spot.
It’s Time to Kick Confusion to the Curb!
It's time to stand firmly in your knowing of what is going on for you and start building the foundations of confidence to step forwards in your life.
It’s time to Lead the way for better.
You are trying to work through this chaos and confusion in private, behind closed doors because it doesn’t feel safe to talk to anyone.
You are exhausted wearing all the hats that life requires of you, and you have extra responsibilities on your shoulders because your spouse isn’t doing their part.
You are at your wits end and have zero patience left for your children, and end up yelling at them most days. You are tired.
Work is getting the bare minimum and you are constantly on the proverbial edge with constant worries about what your spouse is doing and what tonight, this weekend, the kids birthday party is going to look like and what they ‘might do’...
You hold your breath… a lot. Just waiting for something to happen, or not happen. You never know what the day is going to look like so you don’t plan things anymore. Not holidays, or dinners out with friends. You can’t remember the last time you had people over…
You feel like a shell of yourself, your confidence is at an all time low and you don’t know what to have for breakfast some days… making even small decisions feels insurmountable - so how could you possibly make bigger decisions if necessary.
You just wait and hope… that something will change. That they will change and things will get better, and you realise how many years you have been waiting and hoping and wonder how many years you can continue to have life on hold.
Love letters from people who have worked with me…
“I took more actionable steps forwards in this three month program than I did in regular therapy over the last several years. The accountability and support was it for me. I am an introvert so wasn’t sure how I’d go, and I loved the small group setting. I’m so glad I did this for myself! It’s only now that I realise how stuck I was and there’s no going back to how I ‘was’ before. Cannot recommend this program more highly! Everyone in this life situation of having a partner with addiction should do this!”
Linda, United States
“I was nervous, but I felt like I could finally breathe again after our first session. There was hope! I was NOT alone in my struggle! These were real women in the the trenches with me.”
Mindy B, United States
“I’m so proud of myself for how far I’ve come. I’m more at peace than I’ve been in a long time and I feel like I’m finding myself again. And I’m so grateful to Amanda for the role she played in helping me get to this point!”
Luna B, United States
“I remember after the very first session feeling relieved, lighter and full of hope - for myself. Amanda has such a beautiful way of looking at things. The support from the other women was amazing and so often they would share things and would literally take the words right out of my mouth. This kick started my life again and I will be forever thankful to Amanda and those beautiful Ladies who walked alongside me”
Jess, United States
Change starts with YOU!
I'M AMANDA.
I am possibly not your typical person sitting in this seat of an addiction relationship coach… I was a corporate accountant through and through, I studied 4 years at university and then went on to get my professional certifications. It was while in my corporate career and new Mum(Mom) life that I stumbled into a crazy world, where I was confused more often than not and slowly my life became unrecognisable and unmanageable. But I was ‘smart’ so surely I should be able to figure it out by myself (because I daren’t speak to anyone about it… no way) But I couldn’t figure it out… Whatever I thought would help, or what made sense to me, didn’t help, in fact it sometimes made things worse.
I was at breaking point, and so I reached out for help. And it took years of trial and error, “help” that wasn’t helpful, “help” that was judgement, “help” that felt really ick and shaming, “help” that caused more damage in my relationship… until I finally pieced together what worked and what actually helped.
I know you are a capable and lovely switched on person. I know you care deeply about those around you and I know you want life to be better than what it is now. I’ve been there, and I can help. All my program resources, tools and strategies are founded in kindness and evidenced based practices that are proven to help - I wanted that and I know you do too.
I am here because spouses and families deserve better support. Support that actually helps. And when spouses and families get better support, everyone wins.
