You are exhausted by the chaos of your partners addiction.
You don’t know exactly how you got here, but your relationship feels tarnished by this ‘thing’. It’s confusing and you can’t make sense of it.
Some things you might be feeling…
Anger & Confusion
Resentment & Betrayal
Lonely & Hopeless
Powerless & Insecure
Exasperated & Disgusted
Hurt & Disappointed
Isolated & Empty
You might feel like you’re banging your head against a wall, as you repeatedly try and get confirmation and validation from you partner that something isn’t right - but instead they might tell you they don’t have a problem that there is no problem. You might be told it’s either all in your head or it’s actually you that has the problem.
Please know that everything you’re feeling is NORMAL.
This is a really confusing situation.
The person you have chosen to spend your life with is behaving in an unusual way.
You, in response to this are probably reacting and responding in unusual ways - which is understandable.
Know that these reactions are driven predominately by fear - and nothing good comes from responding/reacting from a place of fear.
When people can’t or won’t show up in your relationship in a way in which you need or want, you start to tell yourself a story…
🤍 That this is something personally against you, it’s something you’ve done.
🤍 That this is how life is now, this is the way things are and nothing will change or improve.
🤍 That you are somehow unworthy.
🤍 That this your new normal, to live in uncertainty, fear and make decisions from that place.
🤍 That your happiness is hitched to their sobriety, recovery… or lack there of.
Do you find yourself stuck in “Destination Happiness?”
🤍 That all the good things coming into your life are dependent on your partner’s sobriety or recovery.
🤍 Everything will be good WHEN they are sober.
🤍 Everything will be “back to normal” once they are in recovery.
🤍 I will be happy once they stop doing “the things”.
I used to think all of that too. And it just doesn’t work that way.
Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Program enrolment
You need support for you, for you to heal and for you to move forward in your life. Whatever that looks like… independent of their recovery.
If you do nothing, nothing will change.
If you do something, something will change
You cannot put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.
Recovered or not.
Sober or not.
In recovery or not.
I’m here to tell you, support for you is available and there is a better way. There is so much to gain by doing your own work.
Erin S.
“The program gave me so many amazing tools and strategies to use to help me find happiness in my life no matter what may be going on in it. I am so grateful.”
Lindsey L.F
“Amanda helped me rediscover who I am, what made me happy and how to thrive despite the turbulence caused by my spouse’s addiction.”
If you feel stuck and don’t know what to do, you don’t have to do this alone…
I will help you…
Evaluate your own behaviours that are not serving you and work through how to change to healthier behaviours.
Teach you tools and strategies that work which you can implement immediately so that you and your family can live a better and full life that is manageable.
Help you with your own coping mechanisms in your loved one’s problematic behaviour so that you stay well.
Get you in the best place possible for you so that you can make empowered choices for your life.
Bring the focus back on your life and reclaim it as your own.
Be in a better and healthier frame of mind to get better outcomes for your loved one.
What you get…
Heart lead and outcome focused coaching based on credible practices, research, science, lived experience and success.
Seven (7) 60-75 minute group coaching sessions over three months, alternate weeks(every second week)
Seven (7) 45 minute 1:1 coaching sessions to use over the three months as you need (If you select the signature program)
Me in your pocket! This means you can reach out to me any time on the VOXER app for support or cheering on for the entire three months!
Confidentiality. Warm and friendly accountability. Your own cheer squad. Progress. Better outcomes.
Know this is for you? Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Program enrolment
What else you get…
A safe place to be supported in a group with a maximum of 4 other lovely people who are currently, or have been impacted by a loved ones addiction, whether you are in the relationship, have left temporarily or permanently.
An entire support system dedicated to you. So that you are better for you, which means you can better support those around you and get better outcomes for them too.
You'll get workbooks after each session so that you know what to focus on so you stay on track.
For the next 3 months I along with your fellow Pathway to Wellness Groupies will be your support, cheer squad, advocates and accountability champions for your personal growth and wellness, despite your life situation of being impacted by the addiction behaviour in the past or present…
The changes you see here, will positively impact all areas of your life and change how you show up.
You might be asking yourself is coaching for me…?
This coaching program is right for you if you are ready to stop waiting for your partner (or ex partner) to change, and transform your OWN life NOW. It’s thinking where could you be in 3 months, 6 months, 1 years time if you take back control of your own well being?
This coaching program is right for you if you are ready to stop being STUCK and living in your past story and want to work through what’s holding you back.
However, changing the way you think about yourself, changing your patterns and behavior and change in general is hard work and this program is not for everyone. It’s going to take dedication and commitment from your side. No one can do this for you - and I know that can be scary. And you are worth it.
Change starts with YOU
Stop making YOUR happiness conditional on your partner being sober or in recovery.
This program is for you if…
You want a guided process to stop feeling like your whole world is falling apart and get your confidence back.
You want practical tools to help you navigate the daily chaos and crisis and get off the drama roller coaster.
You want to set boundaries that work and feel good about them.
You want to identify and challenge any blocks so you can reclaim your self-worth after so long abandoning yourself and your wellbeing.
You are ready take responsibility and accountability for ways that aren’t serving you and actively change those for the better, which will be better for al those around you.
You are motivated to change and want better for yourself because you know you deserve it, and you know you can't do it alone.
Still on the fence…?
Only you can take this step and I know it's not easy. Because this involves stopping the behavior of beeing so busy obsessing over someone else’s problems and to start to identify and look in the mirror to our own.
And that takes a certain level of ownership and courage.
AND... with so much focus on getting support for our loved one, it can feel so uncomfortable to realise that,
We need support for ourselves, and
We deserve support for ourselves.
Getting support for you will actually help your loved one too, and your other family members. When you are better, you can be better for others and everyone wins in that scenario.
Know this is for you? Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Program enrolment
Lauren S.
“Working with Amanda has really changed my life. When I found her I was confused, hopeless and depressed - really loving my partner but not knowing how to get through it. Through our work, I feel empowered, strong and capable - no matter what comes. Having strong boundaries and clear communication ironically created a better relationship with my partner as well. If you have a chance to work with her, I highly recommend. It is game changing.”
Luna B.