If you’re here, there are a few things I already know about you.
I know that you’re exhausted, confused and there is a low hum of anxiety most days. You think or maybe you know your loved one has a problem with a substance of behaviour and you’ve tried yelling, begging, silent treatment, negotiating and pleading for change, and maybe you’ve gone through the pockets, the phone and the laptop and possibly the car too so you can confront them with the ‘evidence’ of this problem they say they don’t have, but you only feel more and more confused, upset and worried about the future as time goes on.
There’s so much conflicting information and ‘advice’ out there, it's confusing and friends and family mean well but don't understand.
It’s Time to Kick Confusion to the Curb!
It's time to stand firmly in your knowing of what is going on for you and start building the foundations of confidence to step forwards in your life.
It’s time to Lead the way for better.
You are trying to work through this chaos and confusion in private, behind closed doors because it doesn’t feel safe to talk to anyone.
You are exhausted wearing all the hats that life requires of you, and you have extra responsibilities on your shoulders because your spouse isn’t doing their part.
You are at your wits end and have zero patience left for your children, and end up yelling at them most days. You are tired.
Work is getting the bare minimum and you are constantly on the proverbial edge with constant worries about what your spouse is doing and what tonight, this weekend, the kids birthday party is going to look like and what they ‘might do’...
You hold your breath… a lot. Just waiting for something to happen, or not happen. You never know what the day is going to look like so you don’t plan things anymore. Not holidays, or dinners out with friends. You can’t remember the last time you had people over…
You feel like a shell of yourself, your confidence is at an all time low and you don’t know what to have for breakfast some days… making even small decisions feels insurmountable - so how could you possibly make bigger decisions if necessary.
You just wait and hope… that something will change. That they will change and things will get better, and you realise how many years you have been waiting and hoping and wonder how many years you can continue to have life on hold.
I see you, I know you’ve already done the pleading for them to change, the detective work and trying harder every day to do something that ‘works’, and you are feeling exhausted, confused and stuck.
Bottom Line:
You’re looking for validation and certainty about what is going on in your life and what you can do about it to make it better - for you and your loved one and your family.
Finding a balance between being supportive without losing your sense of self…
✔️ How to navigate boundaries with healthy support.
✔️ Find out how to support them without carrying the mental, emotional and physical load.
✔️ Reconnect with your own Identity so you can show up as your best self
What you need to know
What…
A free one hour workshop for Women navigating a loved one’s addiction to establish a clear path to reclaiming control over your life—all while supporting your loved one in a healthy, balanced way.
Why…
To move you from confused paralysis to taking helpful and healthy action that will have a ripple effect for the good things that will come, for yourself, your children, your loved one and those around you.
When… Check your local time here
Canada/US EST Thursday November 14th 4pm
London GMT Thursday 14th November 9pm
Brisbane, Australia AEST Friday 15th November 7am
Can’t make it live? The replay is Available (register to get this in your inbox after the event?)
I'M AMANDA.
I am possibly not your typical person sitting in this seat of an addiction relationship coach… I was a corporate accountant through and through, I studied 4 years at university and then went on to get my professional certifications. It was while in my corporate career and new Mum(Mom) life that I stumbled into a crazy world, where I was confused more often than not and slowly my life became unrecognisable and unmanageable. But I was ‘smart’ so surely I should be able to figure it out by myself (because I daren’t speak to anyone about it… no way) But I couldn’t figure it out… Whatever I thought would help, or what made sense to me, didn’t help, in fact it sometimes made things worse.
I was at breaking point, and so I reached out for help. And it took years of trial and error, “help” that wasn’t helpful, “help” that was judgement, “help” that felt really ick and shaming, “help” that caused more damage in my relationship… until I finally pieced together what worked and what actually helped.
I know you are a capable and lovely switched on person. I know you care deeply about those around you and I know you want life to be better than what it is now. I’ve been there, and I can help. All my program resources, tools and strategies are founded in kindness and evidenced based practices that are proven to help - I wanted that and I know you do too.
I am here because spouses and families deserve better support. Support that actually helps. And when spouses and families get better support, everyone wins.
Look, I’ve been there. Right where you are.
When I eventually worked out that my loved had a problem it was really confusing, chaotic and exhausting. I spent so many years of time, energy and financial resources trying to ‘fix’ that problem, that I kept saying “no” to myself. Why? Because I was scared. Scared of what it would mean if I got support for myself, scared that it would make it ‘more’ real, that my loved one would ‘find out’ and that getting support for me made me selfish.
And take it from me - it only got worse. It took me reaching a really low point in the rollercoaster of addiction before I recalibrated and took (small) steps forward in getting myself back on tract so that I was better for myself and better for my family - armed with tools and strategies that actually worked.
I don’t want that for you.
And here’s your friendly reminder (with a hug). You get to choose.
Come to the workshop live or watch the replay and eave with practical insights and a clear path to reclaiming control over your life—all while supporting your loved one in a healthy, balanced way.
The choice is yours, my friend!
I am ready to stand alongside you and cheer you on, and give you the tools to take the first steps forwards, whatever that looks like
So why not take the leap and reserve your seat in this workshop
Amanda Xx