Change and your great life starts with YOU

Stop making YOUR happiness conditional on your partner being sober or in recovery.

YOU can be happy and live a full life, independent of their sobriety or recovery.

Does any of this sound familiar?

You are completely exhausted by your partner’s addiction or problematic behaviour.

You feel overwhelmed and confused by what’s going on.

You have lost all trust in yourself and your ability to make decisions.

You feel angry and resentful a lot of the time.

You feel like all of your actions (or inaction) is driven by fear.

You don’t know who you are anymore or what you value or stand for.

You don’t know what the ‘right’ thing to do is… and everything you’ve tried so far seems to fail.

You feel like you’re on a roller coaster, life is chaotic and unpredictable from one day to the next.

You are not alone. I’ve been there too.

Your Story… The Past, The Now, The Future…

  • What you don't know and what you do know.

    You don’t know what the next step is, or exactly what you want. You don’t know what the answer is. You are at a loss as to what would actually help. All you know for certain, is that ‘this’ is not ok, and you know that you can’t continue living like “this”

    You are sick and tired of this problematic use/addiction affecting all areas of your life.

  • What you've tried so far hasn't worked.

    You’ve undoubtedly tried all the things you can think of to help the situation. You’ve tried everything you can possibly think of to help your partner see they have a problem. You have suggested every possible way that they could seek support for themselves.

    But nothing seems to work. If anything, things are getting progressively worse.

  • The silent whisper of Radical Acceptance

    You realise that in fact you cannot change someone else’s behaviour and the only thing you can change is your own behaviour.

    You realise that someone else’s problematic use has left you merely existing in a life and you are a shell of the person you used to be. The penny drops that you actually need support for you.

  • Everyone wins

    When you eventually get the right support and turn your focus onto what you can actually control, which is your own wellbeing and your response to their behaviour. You are better for yourself, you’re better placed to support your partner from a healthy perspective and you are leading the way for positive change. You have stepped off the chaotic rollercoaster. You trust yourself to make decisions and you tune in to your needs and wants. Peace and calm feels like home.

Curious to find out how life can be better, that it’s possible for you?